I have always loved what Stephen Covey said… “Begin with the end in mind.” This doesn’t just apply to career or business goals. I believe it also applies to family life. When I was still pregnant with Natalie, I thought to myself, what do I want Natalie to say about us when she’s older? And this is the outcome…
I didn’t grow up in a perfect home but I sure grew up in a happy one. All I ever wanted growing up was to be just to be just like mom – a good and caring wife, a loving and supporting mom and a godly and obedient servant of Christ. And someday, I want to be able to marry a godly man like dad. He didn’t just provide financially. He provided all of us three a lot of love and protection. Although he gets too busy at work and his business sometimes, he never failed to attend any of my violin and piano recitals. Not once. Same goes with my siblings. He always attended my brother’s basketball games even when they fall on a weekday. And my favorite… Our birthdays are holidays! My dad no matter what day it falls, will take a day off work and celebrate with us every single year!
My mom homeschooled us until we were in 4th grade. I think it was one of the most important decisions that my parents made. It had made a huge impact on our lives. My mom always told us (like over and over and over and over again) that “character is more important than anything because God looks at the heart.” This is something embedded in all our hearts growing up. No amount of money or success or academic excellence will ever equal character.
I don’t excel in school for any reason other than wanting to honor God. My life as a musician and the perks that come with it will not compare to knowing God and having an intimate relationship with Him. I know that someday, I will die and all these material possessions and accomplishments will mean nothing. Absolutely nothing. Just a chasing after the wind. And at the end of it all, “Character is more important than anything because God looks at the heart.”
I thank the Lord for my parents and there is no other family I would like to be part of other than this.
This is my aim. I know I will not be a perfect mom. Ever. But I want to at least have a target. Be that godly mom God wants me to be.
PS: This was back in the days when I have not experienced labor and child birth yet. Back then, I wanted at least 2 more kids. But now…. I don’t know. I don’t think I’d survive another set of months of sleepless nights! At least for now, that’s farthest from my thoughts! Haha…
How do you think your kids would describe you?