During one Sunday Service at church, our pastor candidly talked about wife’s submission to husbands. As always, there were whispers of laughter since it’s a topic most wives evade! One particular older woman in church didn’t seem to be bothered at all in the idea of submission. In fact, she was quick to admit that she isn’t that kind of wife and her husband is not someone worthy of submission. I felt rather strange because she isn’t just anyone in church. She is active in the ministry. She is seen mostly in church activities. And she’s definitely someone younger women are looking up to.
I will be first to admit that submission didn’t come naturally to me. It took a couple of years before the struggle to be in control slowly subsided. I can attest that it was only through God’s help. Along the way, here are some of the things God taught me so I could be the kind of wife my husband longs to have.
1. Pray for your heart. Change from the inside. There is no magical 1-2-3 steps to be a submissive wife. It takes a change of heart. And who else can help us with this change except the One who created us. Sincerely pray that God would help you be submissive. Know that God is your source of strength. He can help you!
2. Don’t react. Just smile. I think most women are wired to be a controller. However, the moment you said “I do” you also signed a contract that says you will be subject to your husband. Now he is in control! As a head of the family, you can show respect to him by not blatantly negating him. Don’t ever nag! Let your emotions subside first before talking to your husband. His decision may seem ridiculous or just plain wrong. But DON’T immediately negate him. Choose to shut your lips and smile. Then….. go to God and pray!!!!! Like, immediately! Tell God how you feel and let His will be done.
3. Choose to see what he’s doing right than the things he’s done wrong. Leadership isn’t in born for most men. Give him the chance to learn. Sometimes that means… through making mistakes. And if ever he did make a big mistake, pat him at the back and say “Tomorrow will be better!” Be his number 1 cheerleader!
My most glorious moment as a wife was that same Sunday. When we left the church, he hugged and told me. “I’m so glad I have a submissive wife.” I wiped my tears and thanked the Lord. I knew He was at work in me.
Do you consider yourself as a submissive wife?
In what ways can you be more submissive?